Walking child is sure a comfort to his parents. Reaching this milestone is a sigh of relief. I am now officially a mother to a toddler. Fatima took her first steps on her b'day. Several days after this big thing she began to master this new development. She was always found standing, taking few steps, falling, getting up again and trying to walk again. After few days of this practice she was able to take more and more steps and was falling less. This continued till end of 13th month. Only practice would help her gain balance and more control over her movements. She is still continuing to do the same activities like opening and closing of containers, putting back things, the stacking rings, etc.
This month she also had to go through a difficult phase. In the middle of this month, I had to join a school as a part time I.T. teacher for a period of one month. Three days before the joining date, I started talking to Fatima about this new change. On the first day itself, I realized how hard it is to leave your child in a creche. Several issues just popped up:
Is it right to leave a child so young(1yr) in a creche? what is the right age for crush?
how to deal if the only option you have is a non Montessori creche(esp. after having practiced and convinced about Montessori philosophy for one long year)?
how to deal with separation anxiety?
Is it right to let your child be in a new environment or leave her back home with some one she
already knows?
Am I being too possessive? Is it me who is going through separation anxiety more than my child?
The first week was terrible. I had put her in creche for first day and that eventually became the last day. On the very first day, I realized it is next to impossible to leave your child in a non Montessori environment if you are a Montessori mom. At-least a blend of Montessori and other child friendly philosophy would have satisfied me. But an anti-Montessori environment helped me decided the very first day that she definitely is not going to creche. I will not discuss here what kind of creche that was but it just made me realize the importance of a child led environment over a adult dominant environment where child is too less important. A place where only the physical needs of child are taken care of, killing his real self. Anyway the decision was made. For the rest of the month she stayed with her grandpa, who she was very much attached with. This doesn't mean we din't had to deal with separation anxiety. To be honest, I was more into separation anxiety than her. She being my first child had made me very possessive about her. I feel I cannot trust on anyone when its about her. Several articles helped me during this phase. They just convinced me to let her be big girl without me for some hours as long as the environment is familiar and friendly towards her. Few of these amazing articles are:
http://www.dailymontessori.com/self-development/children-separation-anxiety/
http://www.parenting.com/article/separation-anxiety-age-by-age
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/sep_anxiety.html#
After following the proper goodbye routine and leaving her in a familiar environment and with a familiar person we got through this one month in peace.
This new toddlerhood bought a new difficulty with it. Seems she doesn't have time to eat. Yes! she is too busy walking! She is eating too little that fear for her health. Again few good articles help me deal with this:
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a1008600/how-to-cope-with-feeding-a-fussy-toddler
http://www.healthlinkbc.ca/healthfiles/hfile69d.stm
http://weecaremontessori.com/fussy-eaters-toddlers/
http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/toddler-has-become-picky-eater-getting-him-to-eat-
Talking and naming things is on its way. She can very well say mum, baba(father), nanajaan(grandpa), anda(egg) and bye bye. The talks are mostly conversations kind. She speaks, expects other person to respond and then she responds and so on.
Drinking very well with glass, loves to play with water, shows interest in household works and scoping with a spoon are few more things this month.
This month she also had to go through a difficult phase. In the middle of this month, I had to join a school as a part time I.T. teacher for a period of one month. Three days before the joining date, I started talking to Fatima about this new change. On the first day itself, I realized how hard it is to leave your child in a creche. Several issues just popped up:
Is it right to leave a child so young(1yr) in a creche? what is the right age for crush?
how to deal if the only option you have is a non Montessori creche(esp. after having practiced and convinced about Montessori philosophy for one long year)?
how to deal with separation anxiety?
Is it right to let your child be in a new environment or leave her back home with some one she
already knows?
Am I being too possessive? Is it me who is going through separation anxiety more than my child?
The first week was terrible. I had put her in creche for first day and that eventually became the last day. On the very first day, I realized it is next to impossible to leave your child in a non Montessori environment if you are a Montessori mom. At-least a blend of Montessori and other child friendly philosophy would have satisfied me. But an anti-Montessori environment helped me decided the very first day that she definitely is not going to creche. I will not discuss here what kind of creche that was but it just made me realize the importance of a child led environment over a adult dominant environment where child is too less important. A place where only the physical needs of child are taken care of, killing his real self. Anyway the decision was made. For the rest of the month she stayed with her grandpa, who she was very much attached with. This doesn't mean we din't had to deal with separation anxiety. To be honest, I was more into separation anxiety than her. She being my first child had made me very possessive about her. I feel I cannot trust on anyone when its about her. Several articles helped me during this phase. They just convinced me to let her be big girl without me for some hours as long as the environment is familiar and friendly towards her. Few of these amazing articles are:
http://www.dailymontessori.com/self-development/children-separation-anxiety/
http://www.parenting.com/article/separation-anxiety-age-by-age
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/sep_anxiety.html#
After following the proper goodbye routine and leaving her in a familiar environment and with a familiar person we got through this one month in peace.
This new toddlerhood bought a new difficulty with it. Seems she doesn't have time to eat. Yes! she is too busy walking! She is eating too little that fear for her health. Again few good articles help me deal with this:
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a1008600/how-to-cope-with-feeding-a-fussy-toddler
http://www.healthlinkbc.ca/healthfiles/hfile69d.stm
http://weecaremontessori.com/fussy-eaters-toddlers/
http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/toddler-has-become-picky-eater-getting-him-to-eat-
Talking and naming things is on its way. She can very well say mum, baba(father), nanajaan(grandpa), anda(egg) and bye bye. The talks are mostly conversations kind. She speaks, expects other person to respond and then she responds and so on.
Drinking very well with glass, loves to play with water, shows interest in household works and scoping with a spoon are few more things this month.
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