As humans we must all admit that none of us is perfect. We are designed to fail, then learn then succeed then fail again in something else then learn again, success again and the cycle continues. Learning never ends. As life moves on, it puts us into new roles, gives us tougher challenges. Key is not to stop learning from our failures and these new challenges, that seem so tough and impossible in the very beginning.There are few things which we must posses to keep this learning cycle healthy and productive. One of these is observation. When things go out of our hand or we see a challenge that too big for us to handle then just one deep breath is what is required. Losing our mind in such situations will only help us lose a good learning opportunity. Take a step back, relax, take a deep breath and just observe things as they happen. This opens up our mind to see the reality, to see where the problem lies and to know the solution. This would be my advice to any new parent. Perhaps the biggest challenge in the world is to have in your arms a small, little human being who is so fragile, so dependent, so adorable and above everything whose only medium of communication is crying. If you are a parent and you really wish to help this little baby of yours all you need to be is a good observer. Gradually you will find your self understanding every cry and move of your child.
These little humans who have great powers seek only our help in getting through. They surely are not some beings who must be looked down upon. Unknowingly we do not respect these beings and their needs. What we need to understand is that they deserve respect not less than anyone of us. Its just that they are different and see things differently. Responding to the cries of your child in a respectful way will make you develop a unique bond with her. These responses must be encapsulated with patience and warmth and the driving factor should be your 'want' to understand. Children often do things which violate a lot of rules in this adult driven world. For ex: a toddler making mess out of food or a teenager resisting to participate in chores. But what we need to know is that they learn by changing their environment or by breaking rules. They always are trying to see if the rules can be molded or changed. In such situations, a parent must politely and firmly establish the rules back. A good way is to involve the older children in setting the rules. This will make them realize that you value them and they are old enough to be the part of the decisions. Additional advantage is that they are less likely to break the rules they have set themselves.
A good parent is someone with courage. Panicking in tough situations will only panic your child more. Responding difficulties with courage and confidence will teach your child a lesson which will help her through out her life. Complaining difficulties and hardships will make your child timid. She will not know the great art of dealing with problems. Every human is surrounded with problems and hardships designed specifically for each one of us. But there are only few who take the right approach to deal with them. Next time a problem pops up just try to identify what new thing life wants to teach you. Face it gracefully with all confidence that if this problem is given to you, you and only you have the potential to face it and deal with it. Remember your child sees you as a role model. With that said, here is my simple advice to parents out there: BE WHAT YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE.
These little humans who have great powers seek only our help in getting through. They surely are not some beings who must be looked down upon. Unknowingly we do not respect these beings and their needs. What we need to understand is that they deserve respect not less than anyone of us. Its just that they are different and see things differently. Responding to the cries of your child in a respectful way will make you develop a unique bond with her. These responses must be encapsulated with patience and warmth and the driving factor should be your 'want' to understand. Children often do things which violate a lot of rules in this adult driven world. For ex: a toddler making mess out of food or a teenager resisting to participate in chores. But what we need to know is that they learn by changing their environment or by breaking rules. They always are trying to see if the rules can be molded or changed. In such situations, a parent must politely and firmly establish the rules back. A good way is to involve the older children in setting the rules. This will make them realize that you value them and they are old enough to be the part of the decisions. Additional advantage is that they are less likely to break the rules they have set themselves.
A good parent is someone with courage. Panicking in tough situations will only panic your child more. Responding difficulties with courage and confidence will teach your child a lesson which will help her through out her life. Complaining difficulties and hardships will make your child timid. She will not know the great art of dealing with problems. Every human is surrounded with problems and hardships designed specifically for each one of us. But there are only few who take the right approach to deal with them. Next time a problem pops up just try to identify what new thing life wants to teach you. Face it gracefully with all confidence that if this problem is given to you, you and only you have the potential to face it and deal with it. Remember your child sees you as a role model. With that said, here is my simple advice to parents out there: BE WHAT YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO BE.
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